It is normal for a baby (that no longer needs to wake for feeds) to wake up for a short period of time several times a night. These arousals should only last for a few seconds and at most a few minutes. The problem occurs when these awakenings become more recurrent, last for more than just a few minutes at a time, or when baby is unable to get back to sleep by himself without outside help. These are some of the main causes along with some solutions:
*Something woke your child up like a loud neighbor or traffic (see Sound And Its Effect On Sleep). If this is the case then try to keep things quiet when your baby is in light sleep or going through sleep transitions. You may also want to consider getting a sound machine.
*Baby is waking up at the same time each night (see habitually waking).
*Baby needs to eat. Young babies need to eat often day and night. If he is older he may be in a growth spurt, didn't eat much during the day due to teething or he simply isn't taking in enough during the day to meet his body's growing needs (see below). Also be sure to double check your milk supply if you are nursing to make sure it isn't decreasing.
*Baby feels hungry because he has a habit of eating at night but is capable of having his nutritional requirements met during the day.
*Baby is not able to replicate the conditions that he went to sleep with (see sleep props/associations) and is therefore unable to fall back to sleep by himself during sleep transitions and other times he wakes. Think pacifier, eating to sleep, rocking to sleep and being held to sleep. See Sleep Training in the blog index for ideas on how to get your baby to sleep better (this can be used for babies of any age depending on what method you are using and what your personal preferences are).
*Baby does not fall asleep by himself at bedtime. This is similar to above but it is really important so I'm mentioning it here. Most babies that can easily and fairly quickly put themselves to sleep at bedtime for at least a couple weeks time will begin to sleep through the night on the own (if they're a reasonable age, of course). Even babies that have previously been waking to eat are much more likely to start sleeping through the night on their own without further sleep training if they can just get themselves to sleep at bedtime first. See. I told you this was big!
*Your child is learning a new skill. Children practice new skills (even when they can't quite do the skills yet) before they fall asleep and even in their sleep. Obviously if you're trying to crawl or walk when you should be sleeping it can cause some disruptions :)
*Something woke your child up like a loud neighbor or traffic (see Sound And Its Effect On Sleep). If this is the case then try to keep things quiet when your baby is in light sleep or going through sleep transitions. You may also want to consider getting a sound machine.
*Baby is waking up at the same time each night (see habitually waking).
*Baby needs to eat. Young babies need to eat often day and night. If he is older he may be in a growth spurt, didn't eat much during the day due to teething or he simply isn't taking in enough during the day to meet his body's growing needs (see below). Also be sure to double check your milk supply if you are nursing to make sure it isn't decreasing.
*Baby feels hungry because he has a habit of eating at night but is capable of having his nutritional requirements met during the day.
*Baby is not able to replicate the conditions that he went to sleep with (see sleep props/associations) and is therefore unable to fall back to sleep by himself during sleep transitions and other times he wakes. Think pacifier, eating to sleep, rocking to sleep and being held to sleep. See Sleep Training in the blog index for ideas on how to get your baby to sleep better (this can be used for babies of any age depending on what method you are using and what your personal preferences are).
*Baby does not fall asleep by himself at bedtime. This is similar to above but it is really important so I'm mentioning it here. Most babies that can easily and fairly quickly put themselves to sleep at bedtime for at least a couple weeks time will begin to sleep through the night on the own (if they're a reasonable age, of course). Even babies that have previously been waking to eat are much more likely to start sleeping through the night on their own without further sleep training if they can just get themselves to sleep at bedtime first. See. I told you this was big!
*Your child is learning a new skill. Children practice new skills (even when they can't quite do the skills yet) before they fall asleep and even in their sleep. Obviously if you're trying to crawl or walk when you should be sleeping it can cause some disruptions :)
*Your child is uncomfortable.
- Is his clothing itchy?
- Does he have eczema? Talk to your doctor about getting something to help if lotion doesn't fix the problem.
- Is his mattress uncomfortable? I suggest buying the best mattress you can afford and preferably a hypoallergenic one. If you are using a pack 'n play as a crib you can buy padded sheets and even put additional blankets for padding under the sheets (make sure it is SAFE).
- Is baby too hot or too cold? See Getting the Right Temperature.
- Is he in pain? **Does your young baby have gas? If you think this is the case, burp your baby, help him calm down and then set him down to try and sleep again. **Is an older baby teething? **Is baby sick? **Does he have acid reflux? **Does he have a diaper rash? ** I've noticed that some things that don't bother my son too much when he's awake (like teething) will be a bit more bothersome when he is trying to sleep since he doesn't have other things to take his mind off of the pain. You can all probably relate with this when you're trying to go to sleep and you notice your sore neck or back for the first time.
- Does he have a wet diaper? Some children are more sensitive than others and do better with diapers that are extra absorptive like huggies supreme. These unfortunately usually cost more. I would first try the next size up to see if this works.
- Does he have a dirty diaper? If he has a dirty diaper you obviously need to change it. Keeping with a eat/activity/sleep routine usually helps reduce dirty diapers during sleep times. Check out the post about sleep and poop for more on this.
- Is his tummy upset from something in mom's diet if she is breastfeeding or new solid foods that have been introduced? If your baby is formula fed he may be constipated (uncommon with breastfeeding).
*Your child may have separation anxiety.
*Your child, while transitioning through sleep phases, may wake up for a bit and make noises. If left alone for several minutes he may go right back to sleep. Don't rush in!
*Your child has a disrupted sleep routine. A disrupted routine could include something that happened the current day or the even the night or day before. While some children don't mind a few disruptions, other children are very effected by them.
*Your child has an inconsistent or nonexistent sleep routine. A child that has an inconsistent or nonexistent routine does not have consistent internal rhythms to help him know when he should be sleeping and for how long. See Why have a schedule/routine?
*There is no consistent pre-sleep routine. Research has shown this to help children fall asleep as well as stay asleep.
*You are starting to let naps slip. When young children do get sufficient day time sleep, they often start to have increased night wakings.
*Your child has too much daytime sleep. This may be true even if your child seems to need this day time sleep. Sometimes you have to slowly wean your chlid from some long naps and increase waketime a bit and night sleep will improve. It is a bit opposite from the adive I often give (put your tired baby bed to bed, people!), but it does happen. It seems to be happening more lately as more and more parents are educated about the overtired child and try to put their baby to sleep after an appropriate waketime. As their baby gets older some of these parents, in their attemp to keep their child well rested, end up not introducing adequate waketime into their child's day and night time sleep suffers.
*Your child may be going to bed too late. Often moving bedtime early by 30 minutes or so will suddenly stop or decrease night time waking.
*Your child's last nap starts or ends too late pushing bedtime too late. Yes, even if the waketime prior is good, children may wake up crying shortly after going to bed if their bedtime is too late. It messes with their sleep rhythm.
*A child that was previously waking and playing quietly in the middle of the night may now want mom and dad's company. This kind of "happy and playful" awakening is possibly due to a child being put down to sleep at night longer than he has the capability of sleeping (see The "Too Long in Bed Problem" and Nightly Sleep Phase) or due to mom and dad reinforcing the waking habit by going in to their child, even if they do not play with him (see habitual wakings).
*Are you reinforcing the waking by frantically rushing into your child when he wakes up and making a big deal out of the situation rather than calmly walking into him and quickly helping him go back to sleep? (see attitude is everything)
Whatever you do, do not play with or entertain your child when he wakes at night . This will reinforce the waking habit.
*Your child's last nap starts or ends too late pushing bedtime too late. Yes, even if the waketime prior is good, children may wake up crying shortly after going to bed if their bedtime is too late. It messes with their sleep rhythm.
*A child that was previously waking and playing quietly in the middle of the night may now want mom and dad's company. This kind of "happy and playful" awakening is possibly due to a child being put down to sleep at night longer than he has the capability of sleeping (see The "Too Long in Bed Problem" and Nightly Sleep Phase) or due to mom and dad reinforcing the waking habit by going in to their child, even if they do not play with him (see habitual wakings).
*Are you reinforcing the waking by frantically rushing into your child when he wakes up and making a big deal out of the situation rather than calmly walking into him and quickly helping him go back to sleep? (see attitude is everything)
Whatever you do, do not play with or entertain your child when he wakes at night . This will reinforce the waking habit.
Hi Rachel.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, thank you so much for all the effort that you have put into this blog - it has been so very helpful to me.
Hopefully, I can ask you for some advice?
I have 6 month old twins. About 4 weeks ago I tried using PUPD and sush pat to improve their sleeping. It has been very successful and my girls are now able to sleep for most of the night. However, every couple of nights one of them (not always the same twin) will be awake for 2 or 3 hours - wide awake. They both roll themselves onto their tummies when they sleep. When they wake they lift their bodies up on their arms and are looking around and straining to see what is going on (which is nothing as it is dark and we are all in bed). I initially leave them as they are not crying but then they keep wobbling and banging their heads on the side of the cot - and as this repeats I can't belive it doesn't hurt. If I pick them up they don't want to be held as they want to wriggle. If I put them down they start straining and grizzling again. Not really sure want I can do to make them sleepy again?? Can you offer any suggestions - I have had a taste of what it is like when your baby sleeps through the night - I am so close yet so far!
Many thanks.
Catherine
catherinechurchill,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry I didn't see your comment until now! You may already be finished with this issue.
My guess is that they are getting excited about developmental skills and trying to practice them. My 11 month old is doing that right now too. He has taken at least an hour to fall asleep each night the last week regardless of how tired he is (he's just starting to crawl). The novelty will wear off over time. Sometimes going in and laying them down, saying "time to go to do" (or whatever) works, but not always, it depends on the baby. As for the head hitting, don't worry too much. Most babies do it some time or another. You could try out some crib bumpers to help with this.
If it keeps on for a really long time, look at your daily routine to make sure there isn't too little or too much day sleep.
Good luck! Glad you have found this site helpful!
Rachel
Hi Rachel,
ReplyDeleteNot sure how much info you need to help me solve this one but I'm trying to figure out why my 16 week old wakes up at completely different times during the night. He usually wakes once for a feeding but it's never at the same time.
I find it frustrating that I never know what time I will be woken up during the night and I'm also frustrated that at his age, he cannot go for longer stretches more consistently.
During the day he has 2-3 naps totalling 4-5 hrs. At night, we do the same bedtime routine starting at 8 and he falls asleep on his own around 9 (usually with some crying beforehand). I've posted about his sleep schedule before and you had suggested an earlier bedtime which we will try.
Two side questions: 1) he sleeps in a mini crib where his arms can touch the sides; do you think this would have an impact on his sleep? 2) whether it's naps or nighttime sleep, he usually wakes up crying; is that normal?
Thanks so much for your help!
Cheers,
Carolyn
Carolyn,
ReplyDeleteAround this age many babies will start to wake up happy. It takes some later than others to wake up happy. Sometimes they wake crying because they are overtired (doesn't seem to be the case, though), they wake starving or they are have not yet learned to be happy by themselves in their own bed. Sometimes they just go through phases (for example, see the wonder week post) where they wake crying.
Yes, work on that earlier bedtime.
So he is waking just once at night to eat? But at different times? If i'm understanding this right, this is normal for some kids. They never get a consistent waking time. My second son was like this.
I doubt the mini crib would cause problems at this age. I can't 100% say it isn't an issue, just that it is unlikely. Is this crib less comfortable than a normal crib? Is there a thinner mattress? There are some kids who will be impacted by this.
Rachel
The crib mattress is pretty thick and I think comfortable. I was just wondering if his hands hit the sides causing him to wake during sleep. We'll have to upgrade to a regular crib soon anyway.
DeleteThanks so much for your help! You're so great at this!
Cheers,
Carolyn
Carolyn,
ReplyDeleteCouldn't hurt to try having him sleep in a bigger bed one day to see if it makes a difference. Maybe someone has something you could borrow? Even the ground (obviously with nothing dangerous nearby) can work sometimes :)
Rachel
Good idea - thanks!
DeleteHi Rachel,
ReplyDeleteWow your blog has a been a lifesaver for me. I'm in Colombia with my 6 month old baby and no access to books on sleep! So a huge thank you first of all.
I actually have two questions. My baby just turned 6 months, she's now in the habit of feeding 2x a night around 1:30 & 4:30. Though she wakes at other times too (sometimes 3-4 times total in a night.) She actually goes down awake but drowsy just fine, but 3 out 5 times when she wakes during a sleep transition (my guess) she needs to be picked up to get back to sleep.
So the feeding question first: I think it's the 2nd feeding I should work to cut out, right? But I'm not sure how to do this and I can't find any posts on night weening your blog. If she's used to feeding at 1:30, but wakes at, say, 1:15, should I postpone it by 15min? And if she goes back to sleep because I postpone and doesn't wake up until, say 2:30, is that okay? Or should I be trying to get her to feed/feel hungry at a scheduled time every night to make it more consistent?
My other question is that I really want to try non-cry methods first for her night wakings. I'm thinking about trying the 6 step plan for babies in cribs you describe in one of your posts, only our baby is in a bed right next to us. I usually wait to see if she can put herself back to sleep, but sometimes I wonder if I got in there right away with a song or something I could avoid the crying and she would go back w/o needing to be picked up. My fear is that even if that works (I have yet to try it) I would just be creating another dependency. Also, she doesn't seem to wake habitually, but at random times in the night. What are you thoughts? Thanks so much!
One more thing I forgot to ask...should I work on the weening and night waking at the same time? Since her wakings are random I'm kind of estimating her night feed times. And they change if she wakes at 1 (which is not 1:30!) and it takes me until 1:15 to get her back to sleep...
ReplyDeleteYou're welcome Carolyn.
ReplyDeleteRachel
Molly,
ReplyDeleteTry putting her down more asleep at night to see if it helps with the later night wakings. As for interveneing right away before she wakes, this does work well with some babies. they get into a habit of sleeping without the waking and no longer wake up. But it can backfire with some kids. I would try it for several days and see what happens. If it seems to not be working, try another method.
I would work on dropping that first feeding. You can decrease how much you give during it or move it slowly later and later, maybe 15 minutes ever few days. Only feed if it has been to that certain time or later. Yes, I need to do a post on this, it is partly done and I have yet to finish it. Sorry.
I would work on the weaning and then move to the night waking, except for maybe getting her to go to sleep less drowsy at bedtime. Do that right away too.
Glad the blog is helpful!
Rachel
Please help!
ReplyDeleteMy 8 week old boy keeps on waking up t 3:45am (give or take 5min) every night. he starts of making grunting and pushing noises which escilate to screaming if I dont come. I tried feeding but he fusses and pushes gas during the feed and ony breast feeds for 10min.
it can take up to an hour to settkehim with eather a soother and p.u/pd. sometimes he does go back to sleep to wake up at 7/7:30 for his feeding, but other times he wakes every hour to be comforted.
He is on the EASY routine so goes to sleep at 8-8:30 and df 1030pm.
he eatsevery 2-3 hours 20-30min.
not sure what to do?
kathy
kittykat,
ReplyDeleteHe very well may still need to eat at 3:45 even if he is fussy then. My guess is that he is fussy because of his age. He is in the newborn fussy period. It often peaks around this age and decreases from there. I would keep doing what you are doing and try to find something that soothes him well. Maybe try a swing if you haven't alreayd so you can get some sleep too. Try to make sure you burp well (but don't go overboard, that wono't help) and get his gas out well (I like to bicycle legs) during the day and especially before bed.
Sorry, maybe not what you wanted to hear :)
Rachel
Thanks Rachel,
ReplyDeleteI just needed reassurance that I'm not missing something.
I'm wondering if I should be waking him up and burping him at his dream feed to prevent gas (as this feed is done with a bottle...I can't get him to dream feed via breast).
Thanks for all the info on the blog...its nice to have someone to share your fears with.
Keep up the good work:)
Kathy
kittykat,
ReplyDeleteI would try burping at the df. Just burp when most of the feed is over rather than right at the end of it so you have time to soothe baby back to sleep again.
I am new to this blog and love the support everyone is lending. I have had ups and downs with sleep. My 4 1/2 month old use to sleep seven hours straight, but then started waking every 2 hours or less. I had been able to get him back to waking two times in the evening and have found if he puts himself to sleep he does much better with less frequent night wakenings. Last night my husband layed our child down awake and he cried for 20 minutes. He comforted him and then out little cried another 20 minutes and then fell asleep. This was the first night in a long time he only awake once. Do you see anything wrong with my husbands strategy? Should I be trying something else? I felt horrible letting him CIO but I don't want to go against my husbands opinion.
ReplyDeleteStacey,
DeleteYes, most kids will do much better at sleeping through the night if they put themselves to sleep initially--especially once they learn to do this well.
Sounds like your husband is using a combo of healthy sleep habits and ferber. Most people start this at 4-6 months or later. And that is with the possibility of lots of crying. I think it is fine, but of course you two will have to make the decision for sure. There is a cio post that might be useful for you:
http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2009/06/sleep-training.html
Hi Rachel, like everyone else - thanks for the blog! It's a treasure trove! So - I have a 9 month old who has never ever slept through the night! The best we have ever managed is bedtime at 7pm, dreamfeed at 10:30, wakes for feed between 2:30 and 3:30, wake for day at 6:30 - this has happened maybe a handful of times. It's only been in the last 2 months that we've managed to get down to 1 feed a night (apart from the dreamfeed) which I did by reducing the length of breastfeed minute by minute, but since then, she seems to be waking lots of times in the night for some other reason! Mostly I can settle her after maybe 20 mins by shush/pat, but she'll wake again an hour later and we do the whole thing again :( The last few days have been a nightmare with her waking maybe 5 or 6 times in the night, then waking for the day between 5 and 6 am! It might be developmental, she's been crawling since 6 months, pulling up to standing since 7 months, cruising the furniture since 8 months, so perhaps she's getting ready to stand alone or (heaven forbid!) walk..! Her daytime naps are pretty good now - after a long time of 45min naps we now have a pretty consistent routine of a 1.5 hr nap in the morning and either a 45min or 1.5hr nap after lunch, then bedtime routing starts at 6:15 to be asleep by 7...so - any suggestions on how to stop the frequent night wakings? Thanks! Sharon.
ReplyDeleteSharon, make sure you are competing her only when she needs comort. Not during playing or a mantra cry. Do not rush in! I suggest having her in bed earlier as she is likely overtired and that leads t those frequent night wakings. If she doesn't have a lovey, I encourage you to introduce one. Try to shus-pat progressively for less time so she gets better at putting herself back to sleep all on her own.
DeleteSorry about the spelling and auto correct... I meant comforting and comfort on that first line.
DeleteThanks Rachel - we've actually had a few fairly good nights with only 2 wakings - one of which she's managed to self settle and the other I've been feeding her - but have that feed down to 6 mins now. Unfortunately (as always seems the case when I think we're getting somewhere!) she's now come down with a nasty cough and cold, so that has kind of thrown things around again! Will try putting her to bed earlier - I'm always in fear she'll wake earlier as she's an early waker already (between 5:30 and 6:30 most days) although I know sometimes an earlier bedtime can also help this - guess I've been too scared to try so far! She was in bed tonight at 6:30 as her naps were screwed up today, but she's just spent an hour awake crying due to feeling poorly, so will have to see how we get on when she's better! Thanks again, Sharon.
DeleteSharon, sickness sure ones make things tricky! Don't be scared of that early bedtime :) There is a point of bedtime earliness that will cause a child to wake erly. Most kids won't wake early in the morning with a slightly early bedtime. As she leans to self soothe better it will help with night wakings.
DeleteHi Rachel,
ReplyDeleteI am hoping you can help. My 8 week old has been on a general 3hr EWS routine since birth and it seems that he is stuck on eating every 3hrs during the night as well. He has never given me a long stretch at night (the most was 3.5hrs one night!) since birth and I am starting to wonder if I need to intervene. He has a DF at 11:30 then wakes for a feed around 2:30 and 5am then starts the day between 6-6:30am. I am so very sleep deprived :( My other children get mummy's leftover 'energy' and I am discouraged that he is not sleeping thru the night like others his age. Is there anything I am missing or should be doing? Thank you in advance for your help.
Nels,
DeleteFirst check on milk supply. Make sure he is growing well and seems satisfied with food. At 8 weeks, he probably can do at least one lounger stretch of sleep if not more. I would make sure to not rush to him when he wakes. Try to make sure he is getting ok sleep during the day. Work on having him to go sleep by himself for naps and when he falls asleep at night. I would offer a pacifier when he wakes if he doesn't go back asleep. Stay there with him for a minute to have him get a good suck with hit. Often doing this for a few nights (or sometimes more, depends) will drop that feeding. You can pick a feeding and work on moving it back or dropping it. Either feed a little less or for less time every few nights or more it back several minutes every day nights. Hopefully one of those things will help! I hope you get some more rest soon tired mommy!!!
Rachel
How do I know if it's a milk supply issue?? He seems content after feedings, has plenty of wet & soiled nappies and is gaining around 300gms a week. He does, however, only eat from one side at each feeding for about 6 or 7 mins only then back on again for a few more minutes but that's it.
ReplyDeleteAs for naps, i can happily say that he does fall asleep on his own in his crib. However he has started waking 45mins into 3 of his 4 day naps which we are working on teaching him to go back to sleep (currently trying CIO).
You have given me some good suggestions to go on.. But what if im stopping a feed that he may actually need?
Nels,
DeleteIf he seems content after a feeding and has good diapers and weight gain your milk supply sounds fine right now. Just make sure to offer the other sides once he finishes one side incase he is still hungry. You want to make sure to get full feeds.
If he is healthy, he should be be ble to go more than 3 hours at this age. If you slowly drop a feed he will adjust with it. You are not suddenly taking him from 3 to 8 hours. You are helping him slowly extend a healthy amount for his age. Just see how he responds. If he has a hard time and doesn't progress, consider he may need the food every few hours. But I would bet he is not getting enough food during the day if that happens.
Thank you so much for your advice. What you are saying makes sense.. it is quite possible that he is not eating enough during the day hence the night feeds.
ReplyDeleteWhat makes it hard to combat this is that I offer the second breast and he refuses most of the time. I will keep trying though.
Do you think hunger could be the cause of his short day naps? Should I try feeding when he wakes at this point? To help increase his day intake? Just dont want to create a bad habit!
Tomorrow is the start of a new week.. I will follow your suggestions for the night feeds and see how we go. I appreciate your time and help. Thank you so much.
Nels,
DeleteIf he refuses the second breast he probably isn't hungry. But it is possibly he just wants to play too. At this age the milk wasn't perfectly regulated for me so It wasn't uncommon for me to breastfeed just one side. As they got older and ate more I had to do both sides. Maybe it has been the same for you and you other kids?
It is possible hunger could be the cause of his short naps. Especially if he is going through a growth spurt or you have any sort of milk supply issues that requires more frequent feedings. You can try offering a feed and see if he seems to take a full feed. I would feed him then if he seems hungry. You should be able to get most those calories in during the day with the feeds every 3 hoursish if he gets a good amount at each feed. I hope that made sense. Sorry for the late reply as I was out of town.
Rachel