tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post6124081963297861238..comments2023-08-22T01:59:18.988-06:00Comments on My Baby Sleep Guide | Your sleep problems, solved!: Average Sleep Charts by AgeRachel Rowellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-85841290950594848052017-09-12T22:57:52.959-06:002017-09-12T22:57:52.959-06:00Hi Rachel,
Thank you for all the useful sleep inf...Hi Rachel,<br /><br />Thank you for all the useful sleep info you've put up on your blog!! Really enjoy reading them and putting them into practice as much as I can. <br /><br />My daughter is currently 6 months old and she's been managing 8-9 hour stretches of sleep at night. Her bedtime ranges from 7-8pm. However, she's been having night wakings recently, but would not return to sleep after feeding! She'd stay awake for 1-1.5 hours before being able to fall asleep again. Am wondering what might be the reason causing her to be so awake and wanting to play at night? <br /><br />At times she wakes around 4/5am, but last night she woke up at 130am and wouldn't sleep till 3am! And the earlier she wakes up in the middle of the night, the earlier she wakes up for the day (dawn time) as well. <br /><br />Since she wakes at different times each day, it's been hard for me to set a fixed nap time schedule for her as well. <br /><br />Would appreciate your opinion on these issues! <br /><br />Thank you :) Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11074499752422691890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-5817151147213592832017-08-02T07:58:54.092-06:002017-08-02T07:58:54.092-06:00Oh, I should've mentioned his sleep times. He ...Oh, I should've mentioned his sleep times. He naps 3 times, first for 1h40m, second for 1h20m and third for about and hour or so. Goes to bed early at 5:30-6pm as his last nap ends early. I have tried putting him down for later at 7pm but he still stayed up for total of 3hrs.. I'm wondering if this is due to teething as he has been chomping on his hand a lot, drooling and rubbing his nose but never cries or gets cranky because of it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07347862343196907098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-78230631344618596822017-08-01T08:25:46.803-06:002017-08-01T08:25:46.803-06:00Hi Rachel,
I have an 18 week old baby who has bee...Hi Rachel,<br /><br />I have an 18 week old baby who has been sleeping pretty well overall from week 5. Of course there were ups and downs but I would say he was pretty good overall. Then, he turned 16 weeks and everything went a lil chaotic. Sleep regression hit him hard as he started to cry and fight naps. This was pretty surprising as he rarely cried. I know I should be thankful, however, as he was able to still keep his total amount of sleep around 14hrs for most days.<br /><br />My real concern right now is that he's formed this habit of keeping himself up after a nightfeed. He only wakes once a night around 3/4am and I feed him when he starts to grunt a little which is anywhere from 20m-40m from his wake time. The reason why I wait is because he has STTN couple nights in a row since 15 weeks so I just make sure he really needs to be nursed before going in.<br />At first, it only took him 15m to return to sleep (this was when he was around 13 weeks) but around 16 weeks, it would take him an hr and now he goes from 2-3 hrs without crying, just sucking his thumb in the crib, sometimes cooing and babbling before falling back asleep. It happens 2, 3 nights at a time and it really concerns me that this could become a habit and settle in.<br /><br />How can I encourage him to return to sleep? He is never rocked to sleep nor uses a pacifier. He hasn't nursed to sleep since he was 6 weeks old except for the nightfeed. He's routine is eat, play, sleep. Please help!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07347862343196907098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-33906912630991873242017-03-17T08:40:34.429-06:002017-03-17T08:40:34.429-06:00Hi Rachel!! Your blog is fantastic and has really ...Hi Rachel!! Your blog is fantastic and has really helped us get into an awesome routine with our 4 month old, Savannah. One question for you...lately she's been waking up from her naps after 35-40 minutes (like clockwork!) I tried shush-pat but when she sees/senses me, it seems to only<br />wake her up more. So now I let her go...she'll lay awake or wiggle around a bit. When she fusses I give her her pacifier and she's able to go back to sleep! My concern is do I wake her then if she sleeps over the 2 hours from when the nap started - even though she woke up for 10-15 minutes 2-3 times throughout the time block?? I'm so proud of her for putting herself back to sleep I don't want to wake her!! I've been sticking to a "30 minute rule" and not letting her go more than 30 minutes off from a feed or scheduled wake time. <br /><br />Currently she sleeps 5-5.5 hours a day (4 naps) and 10 hours at night (1-2 wakings). Thank you so much for your help :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02455593955458729196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-6398721683633525182017-03-17T08:02:49.020-06:002017-03-17T08:02:49.020-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02455593955458729196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-38644887398907612672017-01-29T19:54:41.610-07:002017-01-29T19:54:41.610-07:00Krystal Saucedo,
That 3 month age range is kind of...Krystal Saucedo,<br />That 3 month age range is kind of a tricky one to put averages to because some babies are still up until late at night and have a hard time falling to sleep early, some are going to bed real early, some have tons of naps into the evening before bed etc. The last nap thing for this age is kind of a 'if your child happens to have an early bedtime by this time then here's something you might want to aim for'. Maybe i should omit that timing there because it may be more confusing then helpful. <br /><br />yes, I see a lot of kids get over short naps during the 4-6 month time frame. And with twins, sometimes they don't go away until they are sleeping in separate sleeping rooms for naps (or a closet and a bathroom, whatever you've got available that fits a pack n play!)Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-32801974292256613082017-01-14T10:15:54.325-07:002017-01-14T10:15:54.325-07:00Hi! Love your site. Question about the 3 month ave...Hi! Love your site. Question about the 3 month averages. I have 13 week old twins (10 weeks adjusted). It says to end their last nap by 5-5:30 and max wake time is 1.5hours, how can bedtime be between 7-10 then? unless they wake from the last nap at 5:30 and go to bed at 7 the math doesn't seem to work. Am I missing something (it's entirely possible - i am fairly sleep deprived). <br />Also - we are fighting the 45 minute naps right now - when do you typically see kids grow out of this? I keep hearing between 4-6 months?<br />Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317477803229046890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-49138814423702132112017-01-14T10:14:51.554-07:002017-01-14T10:14:51.554-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317477803229046890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-23428405010682622202017-01-13T15:06:40.146-07:002017-01-13T15:06:40.146-07:00Jenna, I used to list all the sleep averages sugge...Jenna, I used to list all the sleep averages suggested by all the books and experts out but it turned into a long list that made things more confusing for people and wasn't very helpful (since if they liked/agreed with an author they could simply see what their suggestion was and go by that rather than look here). That list wouldn't have been very helpful for you anyway because there are only a handful of research references on how long kids sleep and not even all of those seem to well done. The other sources were based off of experience. My sleep suggestions are based off a combination of research out there, other expert opinions and my own experience with my own children and working with other parents. I know that method doesn't exactly work in all situations and for all people, but for me and sleep (and most parenting methods), I've found it to be most effective. I've always found the sleep averages that Ferber states to be short. When I see children sleep that much they are usually cranky- when they sleep longer they are happier. So I can only conclude even with his research that kids need more sleep. I doubt a healthy child would ever sleep more than is necessary, but less than me necessary--oh yes!!!! So when I work with parents to help their kids sleep well and we put them down right when they are sleepy and help encourage long naps and night sleep and they end up sleeping an average of x hours and the children are happy and thriving, I go off that data, researched or not. Not exactly true research and publishable to a journal, but I still find it pretty reliable :) <br /><br /><br />I'm interested in exactly how feeber got his sleep averages. I tried to find better details some years ago but wasn't able to find them (although I only went to moderate measure-I only have so much time and knowing was only so important). I can't help but wonder if the children he was evaluating were actually sleeping enough. I mean, you can get a sleep average from children, but how do you know these children are getting an ideal amount of sleep (especially since most kids I meet certainly aren't)? That would be tricky to accurately measure. I myself have just done by best to guess by how children act when they're awake, how well they fall asleep, stay asleep etc.<br /><br />Sorry for the rambling! <br />Rachel Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-21766558342981725682017-01-11T11:24:27.375-07:002017-01-11T11:24:27.375-07:00I would like to know what your reference is for th...I would like to know what your reference is for these charts. What source(s) are you citing? I can't seem to find that on this page or anywhere else when you state babies on average sleep this long. I question it because the world's best sleep experts seem to disagree with this data and I would like to understand the disparity. As I'm sure you are aware the world's pre-eminent sleep researcher on children, Dr. Ferber, Director of The Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital Boston & a Professor in the Department of Neurology at Harvard Medical School, states for example that a 6-8 months old on average sleeps 12.5-13.5 hours of sleep per day on average with night time sleep on average being 9.25 hours and daytime sleep being 3.25 hours in total. I am a physician so I only rely upon solid evidence and research not research that is questionnaire based as there is too much error. I would like to have a website to refer patients to and I like your site but I am concerned about your sources. Can you tell me more? Thank you. JennaUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03724495631966034038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-51682695254671118572016-12-18T16:45:14.652-07:002016-12-18T16:45:14.652-07:00Alussa Culver,
It's possible that melatonin co...Alussa Culver,<br />It's possible that melatonin could help some, but it isn't what I'd suggest at this point. If she's getting out of bed 20 times, it sounds like her lack of sleep is due in some part (or in all part, hard to really know at this point) to bad sleep habits. Before trying any medicine, it's important to make sure she's got a good daytime routine, is getting good exercise, isn't having screen time in the evening, has a good pre-sleep routine before bed and has firm and consistent rules surrounding bed time. If all these things are in place and she is having a hard time falling asleep (but she knows how to do so on her own and she isn't getting up for your attention-negative or possible attention-or to be defiant) then melatonin is something you might want to consider asking your pediatrician about. Sorry I'm not able to really give you more of a step by step plan right now, you will need to look over the top sleep tips posts etc.Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-45358827310882722432016-12-17T01:04:55.043-07:002016-12-17T01:04:55.043-07:00My daughter is 4. She does not nap and stays awake...My daughter is 4. She does not nap and stays awake 15-18 hours per day! It is so stressful as she gets out of bed at least 20 times after being tucked in. I've been thinking of trying meletonin. Do you think it would help her?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06332521398612064999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-47988478170001363532016-12-17T01:04:12.197-07:002016-12-17T01:04:12.197-07:00My daughter is 4. She does not nap and stays awake...My daughter is 4. She does not nap and stays awake 15-18 hours per day! It is so stressful as she gets out of bed at least 20 times after being tucked in. I've been thinking of trying meletonin. Do you think it would help her?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06332521398612064999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-52307875960593094932016-10-26T11:46:42.380-06:002016-10-26T11:46:42.380-06:00Hi Rachel,
My son is 10 months old and I feel like...Hi Rachel,<br />My son is 10 months old and I feel like he isn't getting enough sleep in a 24hr period. during the week he goes to daycare and when he is there he is only taking one which lasted 1.5 hours maybe 2 hours. At times he will have another nap at daycare which isn't long. Maybe about 30mins long. Usually his nap at daycare will be around 10am or 12pm. He isn't consistent. When I pick him up from daycare (which is around 520p) he will fall asleep. This nap usually last 30-45 mintues. I am assume it depends on how long and how many nap he had at daycare. His bed time is at 8p but usually doesn't fall asleep around <br />8:15p-830p. depending on the night he sleeps the entire night but there are a lot of nights where he wakes up crying and sometimes he soothes him self back to sleep sometimes i have go in there and rock him back. From the time he goes to bed he might wake up at 11p or 12a doing that and again at 230a or 3am (during this time i will give him a bottle to see if he might be hungry and he usually takes it). He wakes up at 630a to get ready for daycare.<br /><br />is he sleep deprive? how can i help him? Any advice?<br /><br />Thanks,<br /><br />Yolanda Yolandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906824080325288785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-14964884362809101252016-09-05T10:04:15.236-06:002016-09-05T10:04:15.236-06:00I love your website. Thank you! One question regar...I love your website. Thank you! One question regarding your chart above. For example for a 4 month old you say to end all naps by 5pm, bedtime should be 6-8pm and awake time up to 1.75hrs. This doesn't add up. My boy will often sleep pasr 5pm. Shall I then wake him at 5pm and aim to have him asleep latest 6.45pm or is it better to let him sleep until 6pm and aim to have him asleep by 7.45pm? ThanksAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02878368363200705963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-35301232331241534382016-05-15T13:08:54.179-06:002016-05-15T13:08:54.179-06:00I am very excited about this website. I have had m...I am very excited about this website. I have had my little one on an eat wake sleep schedule since he was born but I am having trouble finding an appropriate bedtime. He is a 20 pound 4 month old,so he still feeds twice during the night. He typically is up around 5 something. I have not been able to stretch him 6 am. So, if I give in to a 5:15 wake time, what should bedtime be? I've tried 6 pm but he usually won't go down easily for me that early.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10669403550666748078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-36443786014301374932016-05-15T13:08:06.762-06:002016-05-15T13:08:06.762-06:00I am very excited about this website. I have had m...I am very excited about this website. I have had my little one on an eat wake sleep schedule since he was born but I am having trouble finding an appropriate bedtime. He is a 20 pound 4 month old,so he still feeds twice during the night. He typically is up around 5 something. I have not been able to stretch him 6 am. So, if I give in to a 5:15 wake time, what should bedtime be? I've tried 6 pm but he usually won't go down easily for me that early.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10669403550666748078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-4587064159174317672015-11-15T03:08:22.665-07:002015-11-15T03:08:22.665-07:00I have blackout blinds so don't think it's...I have blackout blinds so don't think it's light. Could be waking to play or to eat. I suppose you can't postpone waking based on those? She woke at 6am today so a little better :) Amylacey89https://www.blogger.com/profile/11291653253613042196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-74730020458449742622015-11-14T12:26:09.149-07:002015-11-14T12:26:09.149-07:00amylacey89,
that might help, assuming there isn...amylacey89,<br />that might help, assuming there isn't something else causing the waking (like light, waking to play with you, waking to eat).Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-9173565980075417072015-11-13T11:52:04.804-07:002015-11-13T11:52:04.804-07:00Thought so, I took a look thanks. would that mean ...Thought so, I took a look thanks. would that mean postponing her morning nap to 9am? And maybe shortening it? Thanks! Amylacey89https://www.blogger.com/profile/11291653253613042196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-16512256282425018532015-11-13T10:46:03.457-07:002015-11-13T10:46:03.457-07:00amylacey89,
bedtime hour sounds fine. Take a look ...amylacey89,<br />bedtime hour sounds fine. Take a look at the early morning waking post for tips on that.<br /><br />good luck,<br />rachelRachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-34927653743573278212015-11-13T06:22:56.675-07:002015-11-13T06:22:56.675-07:00Hi there! I'm so confused my my 7 months early...Hi there! I'm so confused my my 7 months early wake ups I need some advice. Recently she has been awaking at 5-545am she usually goes to bed at 630/7 is this too early? she can only stay awake max 2.5 hours or she's very tired. Naps are usually at 830-10 and 1130/12 till 130/2. She also can't cope without a short cat nap around 4pm for 30minutes or so. Should I be aiming for a 2 nap day? Thanks!Amylacey89https://www.blogger.com/profile/11291653253613042196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-18963980288689680812015-11-01T21:50:37.912-07:002015-11-01T21:50:37.912-07:00Unknown,
Thanks for letting me know they have been...Unknown,<br />Thanks for letting me know they have been helpful! It's always nice to get some positive feedback after all the work I've put into something :)<br /><br />best,<br />rachelRachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-13036379895839582072015-10-25T14:53:22.564-06:002015-10-25T14:53:22.564-06:00These charts were so incredibly helpful for me! My...These charts were so incredibly helpful for me! My daughter is 14 months now and I'm now recommending this page to all my friends who are having new babies! I found this chart when my little one was 6 or 7 months and only wished I'd found it sooner! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998180136204981082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-72127213648596416162015-09-15T15:01:58.190-06:002015-09-15T15:01:58.190-06:00Hi there,
I have an almost 8 week old son who has ...Hi there,<br />I have an almost 8 week old son who has defied all the baby sleep tips I have read. I have tried to be good about getting him in his swaddle and with pacifier as soon as I see he is sleepy. Most times however, he begins to cry once I swaddle him and often takes a long time to calm down...eyes wide awake. I hold him and wait until he is drowsy enough to put down (try not to talk to him or do too much moving) and inevitably once his body touches the crib mattress, he is awake again. Many of his naps we have to go in and put his paci back in or if he didn't have it, try to use that, shushing with a hand on his belly(where did the patting of the back come from if they sleep on there backs?!). Some naps he seems to fall asleep 8-10 times and wakes up crying after 2 minutes. He rarely can make it past the 45 minute intruder without me going through our whole routine again. <br />I really want him to learn to self sooth and for us to not create bad habits in him, but I don't think letting him CIO at this age does any good either-he just seems to cry himself so hard that he is choking.<br />While awake he is a very active newborn but I know he gets tired at about the hour wake time mark. I am so frustrated because I have been trying the BabyWise type schedule and using every single suggestion I can find and my son does not comply. He eats well and is gaining weight like a champ.<br />Night time presents challenges too...I just don't get how to be consistent with something when it still isn't producing "results" after nearly 4 weeks.<br />HELP!Whitney Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06414956294186922789noreply@blogger.com