tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post1933131591450332509..comments2023-08-22T01:59:18.988-06:00Comments on My Baby Sleep Guide | Your sleep problems, solved!: Parent-Directed Feeding (PDF)Rachel Rowellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-66933626749088643252017-05-22T06:27:22.835-06:002017-05-22T06:27:22.835-06:00P.S. You might also check the Babywise (or whateve...P.S. You might also check the Babywise (or whatever guide you're using) and watch his cues to see he's ready to drop a feed-wake-sleep cycle. Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-53883529174850107722017-05-22T06:12:08.653-06:002017-05-22T06:12:08.653-06:00Real quick (since my own is waking) the first thin...Real quick (since my own is waking) the first thing I'd wonder, if this was my own baby was if he or she was going through a growth spurt and was waking earlier to eat or if there had just been one and the baby needed less sleep. So, I'd pay careful attention during the day to not leaving the baby to sleep longer naps than he wanted and especially at night I would try to make the last feed-wake-sleep cycle before bed peaceful so he could get as much milk as he wanted and have a nice full tummy before bed. There. Don't know that will solve your problems, but maybe something will be helpful. Sounds like you're a great mommy! Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-41475684878797741032017-05-22T03:15:10.643-06:002017-05-22T03:15:10.643-06:00Hi,
I found your blog to be quite helpful. I have...Hi,<br /><br />I found your blog to be quite helpful. I have been using the pdf method for all my children. My third one is 18weeks old now and we dropped the late night feed at 17 weeks. His last feed was at 7.30pm now and he would wake up at 6am. Between 6am-6.30am has been the wake time I'm comfortable with so that I get ready for work. But all of a sudden in the last few days he now wakes up at 5am instead of 6am. I have been trying to stretch him to 5.30am at least but it's quite a struggle. Would you have any idea of what could be happening?<br /><br />His schedule now is something like this:<br />Wake up 6.15am<br />Eat<br />Sleep 7.45am<br />Wake up 10am<br />Eat<br />Sleep 11.30am<br />Wake up 1.30pm<br />Eat<br />Sleep 3pm<br />Wake up 5.30pm<br />Eat<br />Family time<br />Eat 7.30am then put him straight to bed after this. I usually put him down at 8pm.<br />i decided to drop the 4th nap for him. Before this one it was:<br />Wake up 6.15am<br />Eat<br />Sleep 7.45am<br />Wake up 10am<br />Eat<br />Sleep 11.30am<br />Wake up 1.30pm<br />Eat<br />Sleep 3pm<br />Wake up 4.30pm<br />Eat<br />sleep 6pm<br />wake up and Eat 7.30am then put him straight to bed after this. I usually put him down at 8pm.<br />i decided to drop the 4th nap for him. <br /><br />Hope to get a few tips to get him back to the wake time we set since he got onto the schedule.<br /><br />Kind regardsGracioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03157929892428150549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-74912867121467370262016-08-25T22:26:39.775-06:002016-08-25T22:26:39.775-06:00Baby will also start to eat quicker and stay awake...Baby will also start to eat quicker and stay awake longer before you know it.,Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-83479182507125885642016-08-25T10:37:33.767-06:002016-08-25T10:37:33.767-06:00In a feed-wake(also called "play")-sleep...In a feed-wake(also called "play")-sleep pattern, others can have time with the baby too. If you're breastfeeding, then obviously you'd be holding the baby during feeding, but someone else can help with burping, playtime/waketime, and hold them when they are sleeping. :) Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-6784406692852246662016-08-25T10:07:07.123-06:002016-08-25T10:07:07.123-06:00Hi, I'm a first time mom due in a couple of we...Hi, I'm a first time mom due in a couple of weeks, and I'm trying to figure out what I want to do. From everything I've heard and read I like this method best. However, I don't understand how others get time with baby. If baby eats for 45 minutes and then sleeps for 2 hours when does dad get to be with him? Thanks!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02702408462560258338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-37451713076081263602016-08-22T14:11:27.982-06:002016-08-22T14:11:27.982-06:00Just wanted to add an update. The very day I poste...Just wanted to add an update. The very day I posted the above comment, my baby had eaten better during the day, and that night he jumped from 5 hours to 9! Next night he slept 10 hours without a feed. I was amazed. For we never worked on dropping night feeds, and didn't drop night time feed first and then the dream feed. I had stopped doing the dream feed because my husband asked me to, for he didn't want me to go to bed late. I reluctantly did it because I thought it would delay the process. So it was such a surprise to me when he dropped both feedings at once! <br /><br />And the only thing we've done is PDF feedings, aiming for eat/wake/sleep and full feedings. So I encourage any mother who is struggling to keep doing their best. Oh the bed time routine is also helping me so much to help him to go to sleep easier and have better naps. <br /><br />I thank the Lord for helping our baby and ask Him to bless those of you who are trying to help others with your experience. God bless you all richly! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-73914523547037071512016-08-15T18:02:16.898-06:002016-08-15T18:02:16.898-06:00Hello Laura. Wanted to reply sooner but.. I just p...Hello Laura. Wanted to reply sooner but.. I just put my lo to bed, so I have more time 😊<br /><br />What I was doing was feeding around 10:30. Some times 11. Because he goes longer without a feeding at night. In that way he would wake up 4:30 or 5:00, because he isn't sleeping 8 hours yet. I think that's because he isn't eating well. Until one month ago he was eating well and I could see he was stretching his sleep, but then he started drinking only 2 or 3 ounces for some of the feeds. Almost only in the evening can I get him to drink 4 or 5. And so I feel I can't force him to longer stretches until he is eating better. <br /><br />So anyway, if your little doll is already sleeping 8 hours, you can count 8 hours from her wake up time and do her dream feed there. If you put her to bed 12 hours earlier, yes, it would be 4 hours after you put her to bed. That would be more tiring if her bed time is 7. If you put her to bed at 6, it's better for you to get more rest. <br /><br />We are early risers so we put him to bed aroun 5:30. 😊Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-56408875956026589122016-08-15T18:01:56.532-06:002016-08-15T18:01:56.532-06:00Hello Laura. Wanted to reply sooner but.. I just p...Hello Laura. Wanted to reply sooner but.. I just put my lo to bed, so I have more time 😊<br /><br />What I was doing was feeding around 10:30. Some times 11. Because he goes longer without a feeding at night. In that way he would wake up 4:30 or 5:00, because he isn't sleeping 8 hours yet. I think that's because he isn't eating well. Until one month ago he was eating well and I could see he was stretching his sleep, but then he started drinking only 2 or 3 ounces for some of the feeds. Almost only in the evening can I get him to drink 4 or 5. And so I feel I can't force him to longer stretches until he is eating better. <br /><br />So anyway, if your little doll is already sleeping 8 hours, you can count 8 hours from her wake up time and do her dream feed there. If you put her to bed 12 hours earlier, yes, it would be 4 hours after you put her to bed. That would be more tiring if her bed time is 7. If you put her to bed at 6, it's better for you to get more rest. <br /><br />We are early risers so we put him to bed aroun 5:30. 😊Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-17660244199533370152016-08-15T13:31:43.674-06:002016-08-15T13:31:43.674-06:00Do you dream feed 4 hours later then- around 9:30-...Do you dream feed 4 hours later then- around 9:30- so that he gets 8 hours afterwards? Thank you for the advice! <br />I have twins and they were soooo easy to sleep train- both of them slept through the night at 6 weeks and never really regressed. This little doll has just thrown me for a loop and I feel like she defies all schedules and routines! Can't imagine what her teenage years will be like! 😂Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949001186923060093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-21631578540940556132016-08-15T11:02:21.483-06:002016-08-15T11:02:21.483-06:00Hi Laura! I have tried putting my 13 week old to b...Hi Laura! I have tried putting my 13 week old to bed 12 hours before his expected wake-up time and doing a dream feed. It has worked great. He does sleep very well from around 5:30 (because that's his wake time in the morning ). Consistency is sooo important. <br /><br />Not an expert at all! Still trying to figure issues out with mine, but wanted to share the little bit I've experienced with success. Blessings! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-10298497146912620472016-08-15T11:01:54.989-06:002016-08-15T11:01:54.989-06:00Hi Laura! I have tried putting my 13 week old to b...Hi Laura! I have tried putting my 13 week old to bed 12 hours before his expected wake-up time and doing a dream feed. It has worked great. He does sleep very well from around 5:30 (because that's his wake time in the morning ). Consistency is sooo important. <br /><br />Not an expert at all! Still trying to figure issues out with mine, but wanted to share the little bit I've experienced with success. Blessings! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-9037516671470386872016-08-15T08:06:37.820-06:002016-08-15T08:06:37.820-06:00Hi Rachel,
I have a 12 week old and we have been t...Hi Rachel,<br />I have a 12 week old and we have been trying to follow the feed-wake-sleep pattern as well as PDF. She does okay with the feedings (4-6oz every 3-4 hours) and will stay awake for an hour and a half-2hours after eating but she will not nap consistently (sometimes 45 minutes and I can't get her back asleep) and wakes before her feed time so often! This has made her night sleep inconsistent as well. Sometimes she sleeps 8 hours for 4 days in a row, other times she gets up after 5 1/2 and we can not get her to fall back asleep without food. <br />I seem to struggle with knowing what a good bedtime is for her as well. She gets up at 7 every morning (I wake her if she doesn't get up on her own). What is an ideal feed/sleep schedule for a baby this age? Do I keep her up until 9:30/10 or lay her down at 7 and do a dream feed? I hear soooo many different opinions and I can't seem to find the consistent one that works for my little peanut. <br />Thank you for any advice you can offer!<br />LauraAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949001186923060093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-18002046453766083732016-07-13T10:37:36.416-06:002016-07-13T10:37:36.416-06:00You're kind.You're kind. Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-72951753849646626232016-07-13T10:26:35.180-06:002016-07-13T10:26:35.180-06:00Yes, thanks to God, we're more rested and he b...Yes, thanks to God, we're more rested and he behaves very well, especially at night, for he only wakes for one feeding and is back asleep. He even stopped pooping at that time! So it's becoming easier. Thanks for your advise. And blessings always!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-11892160276506477832016-07-13T07:01:29.483-06:002016-07-13T07:01:29.483-06:00I'm glad you've made progress and hope it ...I'm glad you've made progress and hope it means more sleep for everyone! <br /><br />If you can, keep working towards a feed-wake/play-sleep pattern for each daytime cycle? Like you mentioned, baths are a great way to wake a sleepy one. <br /><br />Still sounds like there's no hurry and he's doing well for his age. <br /><br />Happy for you! Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-66898605951217449202016-07-12T22:38:16.695-06:002016-07-12T22:38:16.695-06:00Hi Anemone! I wanted to share some update and ask ...Hi Anemone! I wanted to share some update and ask for some advice :) My baby, (2-months-old now) is falling into a more predictable routine, although not the one I had planned. After his first feed in the morning, he has a short nap. It could be 30-60 minutes. After that he may spend some time awake and then I feed him again when his cycle has reached about 2 1/2 hours. I usually do 3-hour cycles, but when he wakes earlier than usual I do a 2 1/2 one. Then he usually sleeps on for two cycles in a row. I mean, I wake him for his feed at 3 hours or 3 1/2 hours, and I can't keep him awake, it is like a dream feed, and he goes on sleeping. I usually have to wake him again at the end of the second cycle, but then I give him his bath, so he wakes up and stays awake for a while. Then he usually has a short nap, ending around 4 or 5 pm. From here on, he stays awake, usually until 7:30. I give him his last feed around 7 or 7:30, and he goes to bed. He is waking up once around 1 or 2 in the morning, and then he sleeps till his wake up time around 5.<br /><br />I'm wondering if it can hurt him to stay awake that much in the evening... I have tried putting him to sleep earlier, but he usually wakes up again after a few minutes. When I put him to bed after feeding him around 7 or 7:30, he stays asleep good.<br /><br />I know this doesn't go according to the whole pattern of F/w/s... Should I try harder to make him fit in it or this variation is ok? Can he be overtired and that's why I can't make him to go to sleep by 6 or 6:30? I let him be awake more time considering he has slept two cycles in a row during the day but, going from 4-7 awake, is it too much?<br /><br />I would appreciate your advice. Thank you! and Blessings to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-66202666147651607382016-06-22T17:20:25.621-06:002016-06-22T17:20:25.621-06:00You're very kind. I do hope you all get rest.You're very kind. I do hope you all get rest. Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-25237531796855122192016-06-22T16:18:55.162-06:002016-06-22T16:18:55.162-06:00Thanks, Anemone, for your encouraging words. You a...Thanks, Anemone, for your encouraging words. You are so nice and I thank you for reading through my looong comment :). I have really been reading on this site today. It's hard to get time in the computer, but I've used every minute possible to read. I have never used a pre-sleep routine, but just now, I started one... very simple, but something that I think I can do every time.I don't think I can do swadling because weather is so hot here most of the time. He sleeps with a fan on most of the time.<br /><br />I also watched the video you recommended the first time. I am glad to hear I still have time to educate him on sleeping. I really want to do what's best for him. And yes, thanks to God, I have a great partner. We usually take turns in waking up so we both get some sleep :)<br /><br />I am glad for this learning time. I just get stressed some times thinking maybe I already taught him bad habits and maybe I should have never rocked him to sleep... although other times I see he goes to sleep by himself so nicely. I am glad to hear it's o.k. to use those props at times. And my goal is to get rid of them as soon as possible. <br /><br />Thank you again. I pray so much for wisdom, but some times it is good to be able to talk to a more experienced mother and get some advice. I pray God's blessings on you and your family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-71873529595724290912016-06-22T14:14:59.406-06:002016-06-22T14:14:59.406-06:00ooops! so sorry for the long comment.ooops! so sorry for the long comment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-18778454425068602002016-06-22T12:58:59.025-06:002016-06-22T12:58:59.025-06:00Wow, it sounds like you have made a lot of progres...Wow, it sounds like you have made a lot of progress! Please don't stress too much about what the book says. It's a guide, not the municipal code. For instance, I've used sleep props of some kind with all of mine, especially with the later ones since I was getting desperate for sleep. Things like pacifiers, baby swings, babywearing, a portable bassinet we used at home and everywhere, white noise machines, and really dark rooms. If I'm watching the baby's cues, I can see later when it's time to wean them off. Usually my husband is the one who says, "Does he/she really need that anymore?" and I've only been hanging onto it for my own sake. Some things, like a favorite crib sheet that became a blankie, or in one child's case a pacifier, stayed a long time. <br /><br />I've slept through crying too and felt bad, trying not to do it again, but it doesn't make me feel bad like intentionally ignoring a cry for something. I don't think my kids are scarred for life because of a couple of accidentally late meals. <br /><br />As for the other bumpy stuff, maybe someone else can answer better. It sounds like you're doing great at observing him and have a good parter. Keep watching his cues, check the book, and try not to stress. He is still really young. All you're doing for him is great and will really pay off later when you have a regular bedtime in late baby and toddlerhood and can spend regular special time with your husband. Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-90152049007647704972016-06-22T12:13:54.102-06:002016-06-22T12:13:54.102-06:00I want to thank you for your comments and advice, ...I want to thank you for your comments and advice, Anemone and Rachel. I have read them and had meant to reply a long time ago, but life is so busy some times with a new baby.<br /><br />Anemone's advice to let him sleep on my chest was a great relief. He sleeps there and after a while I can put him down and he stays asleep... I was afraid it would be bad to do that since I read in babywise we should train them to sleep on their own and not have sleep props. I would like to know some more thoughts on that... I am still afraid I may spoil him. He is 6 weeks old today, and I want to say he is doing better. He was confusing day and night for some time, but thanks to God, he has been sleeping much better, sleeping about 4 hours in a row, waking for his feed and going back to sleep without problems. But this changes if there are problems in his day. There was too much noise the other day that he couldn't sleep in the morning, and he slept all afternoon. I would wake him for his feed and he wouldn't really wake, just take his feed while nearly asleep and I couldn't get him to wake up. So at night, he woke up at about 11 and wouldn't go back to sleep. After I was too tired, put him in his crib and I went right to sleep, when I woke up to his crying, it was 2:30 and my husband said he had been crying since I put him in his crib. I felt so awful! He thought I was doing some sleep training and so he didn't soothe him or anything. Do you think he can be damaged by crying so much???<br /><br />Also, I still have problems with him sometimes. Many times he is just wonderful. I feed him, I take him outside for a while, then take him in the room for his nap. I walk with him in arms and talk or sing to him till he falls asleep. Then I put him in his crib and after a little while, he wakes up, and he is there moving and making little noises until he goes to sleep. Some times he starts to fuss a little but then goes to sleep on his own. But other times, I can't get him to go to sleep. He may be very sleepy, but then he poops, I clean him up, rock him or something so he goes to sleep, he starts trying to sleep, but then he poops again, and he gets so fussy he won't go to sleep afterwards. We hold him and rock him, and he will sleep in our arms, but when we put him down, he cries and cries, and then seems wide awake. Then he cries even when we are holding him and gets really fussy and doesn't go to sleep for hours. It's very common that this happens in the evenings almost every day, but some times it happens in the morning too. I am afraid he is nervous, so I hold and rock him trying to calm him down, but then I am afraid I am teaching him to be held and rocked... I don't want to spoil him, but I don't want to harm him either, for sometimes I let him cry, and he won't stop, he can cry for 30 minutes, and when I try to soothe him, he will cry even harder, so I let him cry again, and he can go for an hour, until I hold and rock then after a while, he starts to calm down. <br /><br />I am not sure I understand things correctly. I am not sure what I should be doing at this age as far as getting him to sleep. Some days he is so calm and goes to sleep so easily, and other days, it seems to me like his nerves are upset he will cry every time I put him down and if he goes to sleep he has a very light sleep and will wake up after a short time. I am kind of afraid to do CIO because of this. And I don't want to teach him to be rocked and held, but he seems so nervous some times that... that's what I do.<br /><br />Please, what should I be doing to train him to sleep at this age? 6 weeks. So thankful for this site and your advice.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-40760198019769439612016-05-25T14:42:17.740-06:002016-05-25T14:42:17.740-06:00It can be so hard to want to breastfeed when issue...It can be so hard to want to breastfeed when issues pop up. Try to remember that while breastfeeding is great for baby, sometimes it isn't always best for everyone involved when you weigh the risks and benefits (health for baby, mom etc). I would certainly contact a lactation specialists in your area (most hospitals have one you can contact) for support and information. Regardless of what you do with feeds, baby will be just fine. There are a million things that go into parenting and being a mother and breastfeeding is just one of them. <br /><br />Also, I agree with above (thanks for your suggestions anemone). What they did at the hospital sounds a bit odd. Mom doesn't get milk in for at least a couple/few days and it isn't unusual to not be able to really squeeze anything out, or maybe just a drop. And pumping doesn't always work to get much out, especially if mom is really stressed or when you are beginning. A lactation specialist can weight baby before and after which can be really helpful to see how much baby is taking in. She can look at baby's latch. Sometimes baby will take the bottle after if they just want to suck, not because they are hungry. BUT, of course it is best to make sure baby has enough food so I wouldn't hesitate to offer a bottle if baby doesn't seem full and content. Do make sure you are getting frequent stimulation of your breasts if you continue to breastfeed, otherwise milk production will not continue, especially if baby is over a couple weeks old.Rachel Rowellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160855322599826360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-78010113512828496022016-05-24T20:21:56.361-06:002016-05-24T20:21:56.361-06:00Breastfeeding with a painful incision to heal from...Breastfeeding with a painful incision to heal from must be really, really hard. Do you have some more support people you can ask to come help? There may also be postpartum doulas in your area. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress. <br /><br />It sounds weird to me that your breasts would be squeezed hard before leaving the hospital. Sometimes milk takes a while to come in and the baby gets little bits of colostrum until then. If you'd like to keep trying, here is an excellent video on a proper latch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wjt-Ashodw8 There are also times when a mom can't make enough for her baby. Usually she can, but I've known some excellent mothers who couldn't. <br /><br />I'm impressed you're giving him your pumped breastmilk. <br /><br />About having the beginnings of a feed-wake-sleep pattern by two weeks... That would be pretty much impossible if he's struggling to sleep. Focus on what you see he needs first? Here's a video I made that might help a little. Do you know a seasoned mom who can come watch you and your little guy and offer suggestions without being pushy? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qsop4eQshWc <br /><br />Keep watching his cues and enjoying his cuteness. Sleep when he sleeps, eat healthy with plenty of protein. Work around the house can wait. Praying! Anemonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08965978304373409422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7230077724876087121.post-62708772640537212392016-05-24T18:39:34.745-06:002016-05-24T18:39:34.745-06:00Thanks so much. It's encouraging to think that...Thanks so much. It's encouraging to think that I haven't lost the battle yet. I had read on babywise that on the second week he should be doing complete feed/wake/sleep cycles and not being able to accomplish it really frustrated me. I also thought if I held him in order to make him sleep I would be teaching him bad habits... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331429572672457781noreply@blogger.com